Suzy Peaches' Fruit Basket (Issues #5 and #6)

Enrich to Outreach

Hey guys, sorry I have been incognito for a bit, had so much work to do it has been unreal. I’m glad that you enjoyed my facetious promenade down Singleton Street and a very big thank you to everyone that filled in the grid. I feel it served its purpose of prompting you to cogitate on your attitude towards your personal life.

I’ll try as much as possible not to pontificate my views, which are inextricable from my biblical beliefs.

Summary of Grid: I could see that we do not refer to our single status disparagingly but rather embrace it. It was also evident that we are looking to learn from our experiences, which are invariably preparing us for our move into Coupleville.

What next – Find love. As Lady A rightly stated in affairs of the heart it is important concentrate on self-development and improvement. We all say we are “Looking for Love” but do you realise the converse needs to be true. You are also the love that someone else is looking for and if you were to find you would you call you love. Let me re-phrase that would you want to spend the rest of your life with you?

My Thought

Our Model for Finding Love:

1. Find the right person
2. Fall in love
3. Unconsciously fix our hopes & dreams on this person and be disappointed when they fail us.
4. If failure repeatedly occurs repeat steps 1, 2, & 3

God’s Model for Love:

1. Become the right person by mimicking God
2. Walk in love
3. Fix your hope on God and seek to please him through your relationship with others
4. If failure occurs repeat steps 1, 2 & 3.
   
   

The Word

“Therefore, be imitators of God as beloved children. Walk and live a life of love, just as Christ loved us and gave Himself up for us as a fragrant offering and a sacrifice to God”. Eph. 5:1-2 (for more read chapter 4:31 – 32).

I’m sure you are wondering why I have put a spiritual spin on this
relationship issue. In response I ask you this question – Can you separate God
& Life?

The key to finding the right person, is not finding the right person, but by becoming the right person. We must consciously stop ourselves from waiting to be completed by someone else and instead realize that only God can provide what each of us needs to be complete. So from today let us try hard to become imitators of God and Walk in Love and in so doing, the intentional and sacrificial love Paul was referring to, which wills and provides us what is best, will follow.

Beginning today abandon the mindset of searching for love and instead start making a conscious effort to moving away from the way we are accustomed to finding love which focuses too much on finding the right person or modelling someone into the person we want. This model problematically places too much emphasis on finding the right person, and isolates our task of becoming the right people, and God’s role in creating and keeping the relationship.

Meditation for the Week

1 Corinthians 13 : 4 - 7

Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.

Now replace Love & it with your name – and read out loud.

Suzy is patient and kind. Suzy is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. Suzy does not demand its own way. Suzy is not irritable, and Suzy keeps no record of being wronged. Suzy does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Suzy never gives up, never loses faith, Suzy is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.

Are these statements still true? I guess we all have our work cut out. Till next week its Suzy here saying …………… Love till love finds you!

Suzy Peaches' Fruit Basket (Issue #2)

Hello my lovely readers its Suzy Again here to brighten your day.

How did you spend your valentines? – Feel free to leave notes on your Valentines Experience.
But today I’m particularly asking about something not as cheery, it is a question/situation we have all been confronted with at some stage in life.

How Do You Mend A Broken Heart?

I dedicate this to Sue who is my Inspiration for this entry - Enjoy

Today I am asking in the words of Reverend Al Green “How do you mend a broken heart?” What do you do when your life if blitzed, smashed and shaken all in an instant. Please forgive me for being so blunt and unappetisingly honest and excuse the jaded scepticism that may creep in between the lines. But some of us have not been so lucky in love and have at least once been faced with the devastation and hell of abandonment made worse by the sense of betrayal. Not to mention the loss of what you imagined could be a glorious future. I glibly liken heartbreak to bereavement primarily because I feel both situations invoke process of grieving.

If any of you have survived it please tell me how you came through it, how were you able to make right your world, how you were able to move on. Everyone says time is the greatest healer and you will eventually get through it. I stand partisan to the belief that we really never get through it but rather simply get over it.

I ask again how do you mend a broken heart? How do you emerge from the cocoon after a failed relationship? You know what it is like you can’t sleep, you can’t breath and you heart misses a beat as it tries to pump blood from one chamber to the other because it is BROKEN.

I know this free falling feeling only too vividly. But today I’m seeking a way out so I can solider on down this bumpy road to my place of rest where I can truly feel whole and healed. I’m taking notes today on what you have done to get yourself through this. Tell me is it much worse if you hadn’t seen it coming. How do you bear the complete shock of being told by your partner that it’s all over when you were blissfully unaware that there was anything at all untoward in the relationship?

Let's start the healing ………….